Comments on: On bed rest, feeling worthless and helpless… what can I do?

By: Bellangel

Bellangel — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 15:58:05 +0000

Put your self esteem on hold. You need to just relax. I know it is hard to do but you have to think of your health and the health of your baby. I know how hard it is not to be able to do anything. With my last one my doctor told me forget about the housework and cooking. You housework will always be there. Your health and the health of our baby is the most important thing right now. You are not a worthless mother or wife. Get your seven year old involved in helping you. Make a game of having he or she help you. You might also ask the doctor if he will strip your membranes to try to help your labor along. See about getting a wheelchair to get around the house to help you feel better. You should not feel lost, ashamed or helpless. You are working on keeping your new baby healthy and yourself healthy.
Well your baby is concerned full term between the weeks of 38-40.
Listen to some calming music. Do you have any family or close friends who can help you? If they don’t live close do you have if they could drive or fly in to help you out. My younger sister had to come help me out with my first one. He was sitting on my back and I never knew when I would loose my legs and fall. I was not able to even take a bath or shower or even leave the house. You need to keep telling yourself you are being a great mom and wife because you are. You are going to have to start working on thinking positive things. Good luck

By: deelite067

deelite067 — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 15:20:28 +0000

First of all don’t feel shame or that you are worthless, you are bringing a human being into this world which means you are just making sacrafices for your baby to be healthy. I’m sure it is hard but your 7 year old is probably not being affected as much as you think. I’m not sure on the exact weeks but I know the doctor cannot make you wait past a certain time in your pregnancy if you want to be induced, it may be around 38 or 39 weeks. You should ask. Best wishes to you, keep reminding yourself you are strong and your doing a good thing for your family.

By: leemajors416

leemajors416 — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 14:46:07 +0000

read or maybe if you have a one floor house use a wheelchair. help kids with home work. talk to doctor and husband for advice/ ask how you cvan help and make sure to tell them how you’re feeling so don’t just say “just worry about yourself”

By: #1 finally here!

#1 finally here! — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 14:35:31 +0000

37 weeks is now considered full term. You should definitely discuss with your doctor about induction. They might not want to in case you end up with a c/s (which would have you out for another 6 weeks!), but if they can get your cervix to ripen etc then they might just do it.

Worth a try.

Although, you ARE being a wife and mother. you are growing a baby for your husband, that is the most wifey thing you can do.

By: d.

d. — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 13:56:05 +0000

Me, I’m wondering why the heck your doc hasn’t recommended that you take some magnesium. But, they are such putzes sometimes, I guess I am not that surprised.

Edit: Besides, the order for bed rest puts you in the category of a high-risk pregnancy. More moola por la doctore. (rolleyes).

By: alimay

alimay — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 13:11:22 +0000

I felt the same way. I had high bp and protein in my urine at 38 weeks so I had to stop working early which was hard for me cause Iam used to keeping busy. This was my first pregnancy so I didn’t have any other kids to take care of, but it was still boring! I ended up being induced because my bp and protein was just not normal. Just remember, it never hurts to ask! Good luck!